What to do when your day is failed, and contacts are unbearable. Tips from the author of “The Mood Elevator”

According to Larry Senn, author of “The Mood Elevator”, skillfully managing your state of mind and consciously refusing to make bad decisions are key principles of healthy behavior. That way you will not harm yourself and others. Remember that your thoughts are an unreliable ally in a bad mood, so it is not worth trusting them and acting when you are angry. Instead, challenge your thinking before relying on it as a guide to action.

When I receive an e-mail that causes dissatisfaction, anxiety, or anger and prompts a response, I may write it, but I will not send it. Instead, I will click the button to save the draft. In such cases, I will let it pass for a few hours or even a whole day. Then, when I read my answer again, my mood will be on a different level, and it will be easier to notice the negative thoughts that I carelessly expressed. Sometimes I delete the answer and write a new one, and sometimes I carefully edit the message and remove the anger and criticism, and only then press the send button.

It is much more difficult to control the situation when in a bad mood we say unpleasant things to our loved ones. Technology will not help us in this case. It is necessary to learn to be very circumspect in communication and to avoid offensive words and actions during times of stress and low-quality thinking.

Imagine that you are driving a car on an icy road on a dark and cold night. Of course, you will do it with special caution. You will drive the car slowly, you will make turns not sharply, and you will keep a sufficient distance from other cars.

Use the same caution when interacting with people when you are in a bad mood. Remember that at that moment your instincts are not the best helper. And it's not the best time to tell people what you think about them, nor is it the time to make important decisions or solve big problems. Wait until you find your normal state, and the mood elevator appears again on the upper floors. You will see that you will solve all problems faster and more efficiently.

When our mood is bad, we feel lonely, lose contact with the outside world, do not seek contact, and do not expect help. When we are in a bad mood, it is easy to hurt and hurt us. We blame others more and tend to assume that there are ulterior motives behind their words or actions. Anger, anxiety, and accusations are not reliable helpers. try to build healthy relationships based on support and cooperation.

But when our mood lifts, our state of mind radically changes, and a healthy mind is crucial for a healthy relationship. In Eastern philosophy, there is a concept of "purifying karma". This means getting off the beaten path to make more friends and get rid of enemies, and life will get better.